Curious about what really happens in a gay sauna? This brutally honest walkthrough follows one man's first visit to Greenhouse in Darlaston on Bear Day—from nervous anticipation to steamy encounters in the hot tub, steam room, and cinema. Packed with tips for first-timers, real gay sauna stories, and raw, explicit experiences, this post lays bare the truth about public sex, cruising, and anonymous connection in the UK gay sauna scene.

During Sitges Bear Week, my partner and I ditched Grindr and dove headfirst into the darkroom at Bear Bar. What followed was a raw, filthy, and unexpectedly intimate group sex experience that blurred the line between exhibitionism and connection. From the sticky walls to the sling, to strangers joining in with perfect silent consent, it was more than just a hookup—it was a ritual. This is what public sex with trust, love, and a bit of sweat-soaked chaos really looks like.

Off to Sitges Bear Week this Sunday—sun, sass, and shirtless smiles await. Third year running and still no plans to behave.