Relationships

I was angrier than I expected to be, and it took time to understand why. Nothing dramatic happened. No blow-up. Just a careful, thoughtful message that sounded balanced and kind, while quietly shifting where responsibility landed. I realised my reaction wasn’t emotional insecurity, it was ethical alarm. I have ADHD and a highly responsive justice system. When responsibility moves toward the person who can cope, rather than the one causing disruption, my body notices first.

I went quiet deliberately. I watched someone I love get hurt by the person meant to love them most, and the truth didn’t arrive as a single moment but as gaps, stories, and details shared too casually to ignore. I knew what was happening. I also knew that if the truth came from me, it would only cause more harm. Silence cost me a friendship, but speaking would have cost even more.

Breaking up in a triad is messy—your ex is still dating your partner, always around, never letting you move on. Can it ever really work?

ADHD justice sensitivity makes unfairness feel like a physical wound. I’m holding undeniable proof a friend’s partner is cheating, but saying anything risks gaslighting, rejection, and isolation. Staying silent burns. This post unpacks the mental loop, the science behind justice sensitivity, and what it costs to be the moral compass in someone else’s mess while your brain screams for action you can’t take.

He’s the kind of man who brings soup when you’re sick and memes when you’re spiralling. He deserves love that feels safe, not something he has to earn. But he’s stuck in a loop—waiting on silence, clinging to crumbs. This isn’t love. It’s survival. And when he’s ready to stop calling it love, I’ll be here. No judgment. Just soup. And bad memes.

Knowing someone’s cheating and staying silent isn’t loyalty—it’s emotional torture dressed up as protection. And it haunts you.

Monkey branching hurts. It’s cowardly, selfish, and leaves heartbreak behind. A harsh truth about people who won’t let go before swinging on

ADHD gives us a built-in vibe detector—spotting red flags before anyone else. We may forget keys, but we won’t miss shady behaviour!

Unicorn hunting in gay polyamory—why it’s tricky, what goes wrong, and how to build a real triad without treating someone like an accessory.

Jealousy in polyamory isn’t a failure—it’s just a feeling. The real question isn’t if it happens, but how you handle it when it does.