Self-care

After losing more than 13 stone, I thought maintenance would feel peaceful. Instead, it made me realise something uncomfortable about my ADHD brain. I was not addicted to losing weight. I was addicted to the feeling of progress.

After losing more than 13 stone with the support of Mounjaro, I expected the hardest part to be over. Instead, I discovered an unexpected challenge. My ADHD brain had become hooked on progress, and maintenance felt strangely uncomfortable. This honest follow-up explores the psychology of long-term weight loss, the difference between chasing a goal and living with it, and why reaching your target weight is only the beginning of the journey.

I never believed I’d reach a healthy weight. After years of failed diets, Mounjaro helped quieten the food noise and gave me the space to build habits that finally lasted. This is the honest story of losing more than 13 stone, carrying the equivalent of a washing machine every day without realising it and discovering that changing your body is only the beginning. If you’re considering Mounjaro, I hope my experience helps you take the first step.

We spoke every day. Now there’s silence. A quiet end to a friendship, choosing self respect over staying half in and slowly disappearing

I was angrier than I expected to be, and it took time to understand why. Nothing dramatic happened. No blow-up. Just a careful, thoughtful message that sounded balanced and kind, while quietly shifting where responsibility landed. I realised my reaction wasn’t emotional insecurity, it was ethical alarm. I have ADHD and a highly responsive justice system. When responsibility moves toward the person who can cope, rather than the one causing disruption, my body notices first.

I went quiet deliberately. I watched someone I love get hurt by the person meant to love them most, and the truth didn’t arrive as a single moment but as gaps, stories, and details shared too casually to ignore. I knew what was happening. I also knew that if the truth came from me, it would only cause more harm. Silence cost me a friendship, but speaking would have cost even more.

Breaking up in a triad is messy—your ex is still dating your partner, always around, never letting you move on. Can it ever really work?

ADHD justice sensitivity makes unfairness feel like a physical wound. I’m holding undeniable proof a friend’s partner is cheating, but saying anything risks gaslighting, rejection, and isolation. Staying silent burns. This post unpacks the mental loop, the science behind justice sensitivity, and what it costs to be the moral compass in someone else’s mess while your brain screams for action you can’t take.

Six months on Mounjaro, I’m lighter than I’ve been in 11 years, the food noise is gone, and for the first time in my life, I feel proud.

Knowing someone’s cheating and staying silent isn’t loyalty—it’s emotional torture dressed up as protection. And it haunts you.